With Continual Reference to Justin Kahn.

Friday, June 22, 2007

Tell Me About It…Stud

By Guest Blogger Angela

Ladies, I think we’ve all been on dates where the man does nothing but talk. From appetizer through dessert, it’s all about him. By the time dinner is finished, you know everything about him. Or if not everything, certainly more than you expected to know. It turns out that there is an evolutionary reason for this.1


In Sex, Time and Power, Leonard Shalin posits that men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears. This certainly helps explain why so many men direct their conversation at a woman’s breasts-they don’t initially care what she has to say, only how she looks. Interestingly enough, women tend to be more impressed with what a man has to say than how he looks. Conversation was the original sexual lubricant, with humans communicating with each other “more often, and over a longer period of time, before they have consensual sex than any other animal.” 2

In any given day, a man will speak approximately 2000 words and a woman 7000. During the courtship stage of a relationship, this ratio changes-hence the chatty first date. “Speech is an integral aspect of courting and a key component to successful mating. Ultimately, a man must be skilled in the art of wooing if he hopes to pass along his genes3.” So when he doesn’t pause to ask you questions it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s self-absorbed. It may indicate that he’s interested.

1. When in doubt, always blame evolution.
2. Sex, Time and Power page 201.
3. Ibid.

15 comments:

Brian said...

Leonard Shalin sounds like a terrible hybrid of Gene Shalit and Loenard Maltin. I was beginning to think you were talking about a book of movie reviews... sexy movie reviews.

maleah said...

this also explains why they eventually quit talking...

bitingblondewit said...

I know! They use it all up pre-coitus. Poor little things!

Comrade Kevin said...

Unfortunately I forgot to pay attention to this article because I was too distracted by Chuck Woolery's breasts.

alecia said...

sexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.

Jenn said...

Uh Angela, did you just go on a date with Justin? Is that what this is all about?

bitingblondewit said...

Jenn, I did not have a date with with Justin. I did have a crush on him last year though...can that count as a near date?

Justin said...

jenn,
I assumed you were sprout, but you aren't sprout, you are jennbot.

I believe that is perfectly clear.

j.

Justin said...

bbw,

A shame that I don't believe in long distance relationships and/or myself.

j.

Justin said...

aristophanes,

Thank you for your balanced and informed remark.

I will see you at carrrrribou in a week or so. On coventry.

j.

Justin said...

Comrade K,
From a strictly aesthetic perspective, you have chosen wisely.

j.

Justin said...

Brian,Thanks to the human genome project your worst fears may one day come true.

sorry,
j.

Jenn said...

Justin. I've read your comment 72 times. If I'm a sprout (or jennbot) I have to say that you're the master of the non sequitur.

Jenn said...

Angela, actually I was talking about the whole concept of a date with someone who could not talking about himself.

I thought you got a full blast of Justin.

Jenn said...

Um, that's could not stop talking about himself.